JOURNAL 4

                                                   GOING BACK TO HOME

This week I read an article about living with parents after teenage age. Writer talks about the people who live with their parents. I have some differences of opinion because writer thinks this situation as a problem but I think it’s not abnormal. I think the reason of this difference of opinion is culture differences.

            In Turkey, we love being with our families. We tend to live crowded families with grandmother, grandfather, son, daughter, etc. Even if our son or daughter marry we continue live together. In U.S.A this situation is a bit different. When children become 18 they go out from home and stay away from their families. They attend a university or find a job and they start to live alone. Thus when their children go back their home for a lot of reasons they become shock and find this situation strange. However when time passes they like this situation and they get used to live with their children. However in Turkey even if the child wants to stay away from home, families don’t let.

            We can look at this situation from two perspective. The first one is living with families is beneficial for both parents and children. If children have job and they earn money, they can support their families economically. Also the intimacy between children and parents makes them feel better. They live in a safe atmosphere. The second one is living with families is harmful for both parents and children. If children don’t have a job and they don’t earn money, they get used to live like an parasitical with their parents. They addict their parents and they aren’t be able to do their own works. They become a coach potato. They make their parents tired also they make themselves useless.

            To some up, living with families can be beneficial or harmful. Balance is very important in this situation. When you lose this balance it can be worse. On the other hand when you arrange everything correctly it can become perfect.