JOURNAL 7

                                                        

   

                              MAMMA’S BOY

In these years there is a problem among the men. They don’t want to stay alone and they prefer to live with their mother. Of course, mothers love this situation a lot and they insist on their children staying with them. Greg Burke Rome reflects this situation in his essay. He says that, it is a common problem in Italy. He argues that both adult children and mothers stay together and they make excuses for this situation.

            In Italy, staying with mother is a bit different from Turkey. In Turkey, mother asks everything about their sons, where they go, whom they go with, etc... In Italy, they live more comfortable so they don’t have any problem while they are staying with their mothers. An Italian man who stays with his mother says that he is an adult man and he can act however he wants. He can go his home in late hours and his mother doesn’t care about it. Also, his mother makes delicious food for him, brings his coffee to his bed every morning. Apart from these, both sides have economic advantages. They share the expenses, fees. Thus both adult children and mothers are happy about this situation. Also there are university students who have to go another city for their education. Author says that even that time they can’t separate from their mothers and they eat the meals which they mother sends. He reflects this situation as unusual but in Turkey it is very normal. Almost every student eats the meals sent from his/her mother like me. Lucca Rocca , an Italian man who eats his mothers meal at university, says that this situation also makes my mother happy so I ask for food from her.

            Deep intimacy with mother causes some problems especially in marriage. When a man marries with a woman, man feel confuse. Sometimes his wife feels herself in the second plan sometimes his mother, too. Problems occur in that time and man can’t decide how to act. Author thinks that this situation resembles Oedipus complex and I think he is right.

            This is a very interesting essay that reflects almost all men’s problems actually. It is very important to make this balance very well. Otherwise problems occur and everyone suffers from this situation including mothers, men and their wife.

JOURNAL 6

                                                   HOME OR DORMITORY

Each university student encounters a problem when they attend a university. Where do they stay while studying? This is not a problem for those who study in their homeland. They probably continue with stay their families. They live in a comfortable house, their mothers cook the meal, wash their cloths, etc... However the students who have to go another city for studying don’t have these opportunities and they have to live on their own. The question raises here. Whether they will stay at dormitory or stay at home.

            When I attend the university, this was a big problem for me. I and my parent quarrel with many times. They wanted me to stay at dormitory but I wanted to stay at home. We think about this issue very much. As I know this is a hard decision, I want to help you decide by explaining both types of accommodation.

Both families and students have different opinions about this controversial subject. One side says that staying at home is better than staying at dormitory. According to families their children can learn making housework because at university they don’t find anyone who makes their housework instead of them. They have to wash their clothes, clean their houses, pay the bills. With the help of these, they learn having responsibilities which will be very helpful in their later life. When we look at children’s aspect, they think staying at home can be enjoyable. They live alone. They have no one to explain their behaviour. They feel free. In addition to these, they don’t have any limitation so that they can go their home whenever they want. While some parents and students support home, there is another parents and students who support staying at dormitory. This type of families says that staying at dormitory is safer than home. They think their children behave in a good manner and take care of their timing at dormitory. Since they stay in dormitory they can’t go outside in late hours. Also parents think that while staying at dormitory, their children learn living with another people in a peaceful way and sharing. According to students, staying at dormitory can be beneficial, because they don’t have to make housework like laundry, cooking , etc... They also don’t have to think about bills or other frustrating things about home. They pay dormitory’s payment every months and don’t think money again.

I explained to you both types. After that time it is your choice. I know that wherever you stay you will be happy because both of them are very comfortable. By the way if you wonder what I chose, I say. I accepted by parent’s choice and I stay in dormitory.

JOURNAL 5

                                

  STUDENTS IN ANKARA

Today I want to talk about an interesting topic that interests all of us, being a student in Ankara. I am a student in Ankara like you, and I want to talk about being a student in this city. Ankara is the capital city of our country and it has a lot of facilities.

            When I learned that I would attend METU, I was shocked. Ankara wasn’t the city that I want to come and study. I remember that I was very upset and I didn’t talk with anyone for one or two hours. Actually the university that I wanted to attend was Bosphorus University. Thus I was willing to go Istanbul rather than Ankara. I didn’t want to come Ankara and I came METU reluctantly. Istanbul is the biggest city of Turkey and it has a lot of facility. It has a lot of touristic places, cultural activities,etc...Because of these reasons, Istanbul was very attractive for me. There isn’t sea in Ankara even, but Istanbul has beautiful bosphorus which is very famous all around the world. I grew up in Giresun where is near the sea and I thought that I can’t live without sea.

            When time passes, I get used to live in Ankara. At first I like my school very much. I think METU is the greatest school in the world. I know that I’m not objective. Also Ankara is like a combination of a big city and a little country. It has as many facilities as Istanbul. There is theatres, cultural centers, cinemas, clubs in Ankara. Also Ankara is a safe city that we can live without worry. Transportation is very easy and we can go anywhere without difficulty. I think transportation is very important and the people who live in Ankara are very lucky for this aspect. Ankara is a quiet and peaceful city. It is not tiring. In addition, Ankara is in the middle of the Anatolia. Thanks to its location, it is very easy to travel other cities, especially Konya, Eskişehir, İzmir, Kırşehir.

            On the other hand, it is a little bit boring. Sometimes I want to enjoy but there isn’t enough place to go. Some political issues can be dangerous especially in our campus. Also there isn’t sea and I guess it is the most important one for me.

            As I told you before, I came to this city very reluctantly. However in two years I got used to live here and now I love this city very much, even if it hasn’t seaJ